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Not so, says Cahir.
"Every parent has the right to say, 'It is too my business,'" she
says. "Parents sometimes shy away from being more involved because they
don't want to seem intrusive. But it is their business to know whom their child
hangs out with, to know whether the child is in distress, and to help their
children through these difficult times. Sometimes kids don't like hearing that,
and may respond in defiant ways, but parents must toe the line and say, 'We
have a right to know.'"
But Wechsler agrees with Cahir that communication is not only what your
children need, but what they truly want.
"As a parent of two teens myself, you tend to believe them when they
walk out of the room and don't express any interest in hearing from you,"
Wechsler says. "But kids really do want that communication with parents.
They really do want to hear their parents' values. They really need their
parents to monitor their whereabouts and stay in touch and stay a very strong
part of their lives."
Cahir says the key to communicating with teens is developing mutual
"Each member of a family should treat the others members like a best
friend or at least as a guest in the house," she says. "If you are
angry with your teen, or your teen is angry with you, you have to talk it out
in a way that is not hostile or aggressive. I've seen some families go after
each other tooth and nail and they end up really harming each other."
If communication breaks down, it may be time for the family to sit down with
a professional to learn how to express disagreements in a constructive way.
The full CDC report, "Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance -- United States,
2007," is available on the CDC's web site at
www.cdc.gov/HealthyYouth/yrbs/index.htm. For comparison, earlier years' reports
are also available.